things I'd tell my teenage self
Do not compare yourself to others.
Just don’t. It took you a while to really get what this meant and realise how toxic it was. There is nothing wrong with you. Establishing yourself and working out who you are takes time and we all follow our own unique paths.
Things are out of your control.
Focus on the things that are. Try a little harder at school, focus more on growing as a person and enjoy yourself. Make your own decisions and accept your own mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up over things you have no control over.
Say what you want more as no one else will.
Be brave and ask for help.
Stubborn as rock you never asked for help when you needed it most. It’s okay to call your friend in the middle of the night or cry to your parents for hours. Vent your frustrations and issues and it’ll save a lot of heartache down the line.
Friends come and go.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put the effort into making and keeping them. You met some of your best friends during your college years by making socialising your priority. Put yourself out there a bit more and enjoy the people around you.
There is no such thing as “normal".
There is no such thing as normal. As you grow up you’ll see how no one is perfectly adjusted and not everyone has it as easy as it might seem on the surface. We are all our own worst critics and it’s important to understand everyone has their own problems and issues.
Life is in flux.
You still don’t know what you want to do with your life so don’t worry that you don’t have a plan or a goal. You’re capable of doing whatever you want, go wherever you want and have the potential for great things. Accept it, Embrace it and things will work out.
Mum & Dad aren’t that bad.
Separation loomed over your teens. You realised for the first time your parents weren’t superheroes and life got very real. Be thankful your parents have always let you do what you want, allowed you make your own mistakes and supported you no matter what. They gave you all the extra help you needed in life from picking you up at 3am in the middle of no where to lending you their camera to start this blog. Make the most of your time at home. Both step parents are pretty awesome too - Don’t be so harsh on them.
It’s ok to be not ok.
Growing up is so hard. Keep it together and don’t have a existential crisis and just be okay with not being okay for a bit. It’s normal to feel scared, insecure and worried about the future. You’re life is going through a huge change and your whole life is in front of you. Cry, scream, sob. Let it out because we all need time to heal.
Life doesn’t always go the way you plan.
But whatever you end up doing will be exactly what you want to do at that moment.
Being an adult isn’t as easy as it sounds.
While the freedom, financial benefits and the flexibility of being an adult are fab. Things like tax, food shopping and doing the laundry are not. There is so much you don’t learn at school that you will learn once you move out and have your own life. Make the most of your time with Mum and Dad because life isn’t all that sweeter on the other side!