things I'd tell my teenage self

things I'd tell my teenage self

Do not compare yourself to others.
Just don’t. It took you a while to really get what this meant and realise how toxic it was. There is nothing wrong with you. Establishing yourself and working out who you are takes time and we all follow our own unique paths.

Things are out of your control.
Focus on the things that are. Try a little harder at school, focus more on growing as a person and enjoy yourself. Make your own decisions and accept your own mistakes. Don’t beat yourself up over things you have no control over.

Speak Up.
Say what you want more as no one else will.

Be brave and ask for help.
Stubborn as rock you never asked for help when you needed it most. It’s okay to call your friend in the middle of the night or cry to your parents for hours. Vent your frustrations and issues and it’ll save a lot of heartache down the line.

Friends come and go.

But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put the effort into making and keeping them. You met some of your best friends during your college years by making socialising your priority. Put yourself out there a bit more and enjoy the people around you.

There is no such thing as “normal".

There is no such thing as normal. As you grow up you’ll see how no one is perfectly adjusted and not everyone has it as easy as it might seem on the surface. We are all our own worst critics and it’s important to understand everyone has their own problems and issues.

Life is in flux.
You still don’t know what you want to do with your life so don’t worry that you don’t have a plan or a goal. You’re capable of doing whatever you want, go wherever you want and have the potential for great things. Accept it, Embrace it and things will work out.

Mum & Dad aren’t that bad.
Separation loomed over your teens. You realised for the first time your parents weren’t superheroes and life got very real. Be thankful your parents have always let you do what you want, allowed you make your own mistakes and supported you no matter what. They gave you all the extra help you needed in life from picking you up at 3am in the middle of no where to lending you their camera to start this blog. Make the most of your time at home. Both step parents are pretty awesome too - Don’t be so harsh on them.

It’s ok to be not ok.
Growing up is so hard. Keep it together and don’t have a existential crisis and just be okay with not being okay for a bit. It’s normal to feel scared, insecure and worried about the future. You’re life is going through a huge change and your whole life is in front of you. Cry, scream, sob. Let it out because we all need time to heal.

Life doesn’t always go the way you plan.
But whatever you end up doing will be exactly what you want to do at that moment.

Being an adult isn’t as easy as it sounds.
While the freedom, financial benefits and the flexibility of being an adult are fab. Things like tax, food shopping and doing the laundry are not. There is so much you don’t learn at school that you will learn once you move out and have your own life. Make the most of your time with Mum and Dad because life isn’t all that sweeter on the other side!

41 comments

  1. such correct statements, I completely agree with you

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  2. I wish I could go back in time tell my teenage self everything!!!


    http://hashtagliz.com

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  3. I also posted a similar thing over on my blog, about fashion and beauty related advice I would give my teenage self (click here to read.), and I really wanted to write a more lifestyle based one too! Everything you mentioned is spot on. Being an adult is the most difficult time of your life, but also pretty rewarding!

    Beauty Reviews

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  4. Great suggestions, I'd say to my teen self the same!

    H&M and Primark for Italy on lb-lc fashion blog

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  5. I completely agree with all of this, so many important points :)

    Style Sunrise☀

    :)
    x

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  6. Great post. I'd note some of these things down to tell myself in a few year about being an early twenteen. Life is so different to what I imagined it to be when I was a teenager. I thought I'd be just like my parents and that being 24 would be so old, but it's not! Definately not.

    ohhellojo.blogspot.com

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  7. Lily this is brilliant!
    I've been reflecting ALOT on my teenage years recently and this post reflects alot of what I've been thinking!
    Growing up is so difficult!

    Kelly from | DayDreams & DaisyChains

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  8. I found myself nodding along to all of your points, I totally think I would tell my teenage self similar things.

    Sophie x

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  9. I wish I could go back and tell my teenage self some of these points, also about how much I sucked with an emo fringe!

    http://starsandspaceandstuff.blogspot.co.uk/

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  10. Couldn't agree more on these. The amount of times family members, friends, strangers are clearly in pain and choose not to vent is distressing. Saying 'I'm not ok' out loud makes a world of difference. Great post!

    http://lifebyemmy.blogspot.co.uk/

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  11. Great post! Totally agree.
    xx

    http://blonde-stuff.blogspot.de

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  12. I've wanted to do a post like this for a while now, and reading this has definitely 'pushed' me in to finally writing one. I feel we all have similar things we would tell our teenage selves.. basically to stop caring about others opinions, loosen up and worry less, right?!

    Shona x
    http://shonarose.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. Such a lovely and relatable post.

    Charlotte x
    www.styleaked.blogspot.co.uk

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  14. Loved this. I'm sure many people can relate and people really should listen to these tips! You are so right about these things.

    Maria.
    www.phentastic.com // Scandinavian fashion blog

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  15. This is a great post, there's so much that I wish I could go back and tell my teenage self. I never realised how easy I had it! xo

    Lucy-J Loves | UK Fashion, Beauty & Lifestlye

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  16. I would pretty much say the same things !

    Sara,
    http://thecrimeofashion.blogspot.fr

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  17. Very wise words and cool sweatshirt!
    XO
    Jeanne
    http://fashionmusingsdiary.blogspot.fr

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  18. Love this post, everything you wrote is so true and relatable!

    Bramble & Thorn

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  19. Love this post! Absolutely agree with everything xx

    Baby Rebel

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  20. i like these thoughts, good advice to everyone :) x
    http://eighteen-cool.blogspot.co.uk/

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  21. So lovely, very wise words. If only we could actually go back in time and tell our teenage selves all we know now H xx

    www.hopesgone.blogpsot.co.uk

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  22. you look so different! x
    http://my--socalledlife.blogspot.com/

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  23. Those are the things I needed to hear, right now. Thank you for that!

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  24. Lovely post! Good advice :)

    Celine // http://mybloggreeneyedgirl.blogspot.be/

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  25. I think mine would be really similar, except perhaps don't be so sure that what your saying is always 100% right, because it isn't!

    average adventures

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  26. The friends one, so true! As you change, certain people do stick around and some go but we have to remember that it's okay
    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Fashion Lifestyle + Photography - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  27. "Do not compare yourself to others"" it's hard not to when you see that everyone around you is more beautiful more successful, more loved... This is something I always did, I kind of grew up with that idea, I'm 24 and I know that it will never be different unless I become someone else, someone better. This is, for sure, something I'd love to tell my teenage-self too but I guess it's too late to put this in my head now.
    I love how I can relate to a lot of your posts like this, your blog is really perfect from the picture content to the texts, it's just amazing.

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  28. Love this post Lily, especially the part about not comparing yourself to others, I still have to remember that now, not just in my teenage years!

    http://shewhoisshort.blogspot.co.uk/

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  29. If only we could go back in time.

    xo
    Maggie A
    www.lovemavin.com

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  30. Love this post ! x

    http://caitlynkirton.blogspot.com.au/

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  31. Really helped me actually, I found this really useful as a teenager myself who's going through a hard time. Thanks Lily x

    www.anonstyle.blogsspot.co.uk

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  32. this was truly amazing ! and i love your tee

    seestyled.com

    xoxo

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  33. Love this post! It's exactly what I want to tell my 16 year old self x

    www.angerawrs.co.uk

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  34. Great post! I completely agree with these and there's a couple I'd have applied to my teenage self as well :)

    www.violetdaffodils.com
    xx

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  35. I wouldn't really call myself an adult yet (or don't want to) but can't help but agree with a few of these :) xxx

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  36. what amazing advice. this is really meaningful.

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