Things I’ve Learnt Living Alone



I’ve lived on my own now for the past three almost four months and I always get so many questions about living on my own and if I like it or if I find it lonely. I thought today I’d share some of my thoughts I've had since I've got my own flat.

To be completely honest - Im so happy living alone. I love being on my own anyway, Im one of those people who just prefers to get on with their own stuff than have to wait around for other people. Solo living was something that I knew would always sit well with me because it’s just my kinda vibe. I could lie and pretend that I miss seeing people everyday but I genuinely don’t. Being on my own makes me feel strong, independent and proud that I can afford this flat and all the things inside it all by myself. Im 25 years old and I can say I paid for every single thing inside my flat and I know some bloggers are ashamed of the fact their life is built on money from their blog but Im so proud of the life Im able to build from something I started as a hobby. I’ll never be ashamed of the fact that I earnt all the money for the things in my flat myself because sometimes it amazes me when I look at my beautiful flat and my lovely little car.

I very rarely feel lonely (I don’t know if thats just me, but I don’t!), I have a bunch of awesome friends and family who I feel like I’ve made extra effort with since going solo. I still have a pretty active social life and go out a lot still. I feel like living alone has just made me more inclined to go out there and meet people. I’ve always classed myself as a “terrible friend” as I rarely keep in contact with the people that mean the most to me but I have been reaching out to old friends and getting back in touch with people. I do miss living with my friend Dal though. She moved out of our place a few months before I left so we’d not lived together for a while now. However we still hung out all the time, but now I live in Brighton I see her less so thats kinda weird.

Im much messier than I thought I was, I think because I don’t have so much pressure to tidy up after myself as it’s only me and the Cat here. I don’t really enjoy cleaning that much so I tend to go by this rule “if it takes me less than 5 minutes I’ll do it now, if not I can leave it” It’s helped me keep my place relatively tidy but at the same time I do leave things longer that I should do. I’ve never been a particularly tidy person but I hate a messy kitchen and bathroom and I do think theres a huge line between mess and filth. Filth is a no-go but a little mess never hurt anyone. I try and wipe down my surfaces and load away all my washing every night before bed though but my flat is always messier than I'd like.

Home stuff is expensive. Although I don’t like to talk about money too much, I initially put aside £2000 to furnish my flat but I broke that budget in the end, although not too much over which did surprise me. My flats not finished yet but it’s well on it’s way to being done. I got both my beds, my sofa, my tv, a desk and a bunch of other stuff within that budget. I had absolutely nothing when I moved in (not even kitchen stuff) so I literally started from scratch buying everything from pots and pans to cutlery to my vacuum cleaner. I still need a lot of decor and some shelving units, blinds plus a few rugs but I know thats all stuff that I’ll gather over time now. I have the essentials though!

Me and Aerys seem to have grown closer since we moved. To be completely honest we’ve never been close, she’s always favoured my old housemate Ben. She loves boys for some reason, I found a photo of her and my ex recently when she was watching TV with us and had her paw stretched out holding him! Which she now seems to do with me which makes me melt. On the whole we're pretty okay these days. She doesn’t go outside any more which I think suits her a lot, I was worried she’d pine for the outside but she’s reverted back to her princess day. Spending a lot of her time grooming and sleeping in her bed or on rolling all over my washing. I think she only used to go out because we put her outside rather than her actually wanting to be there. I often wonder if she misses her pal Felix (our neighbours cat) but I think she’s moved on, he did used to bully her and chase her into the house all the time. I have considered getting her a brother but I don’t think I will just yet because Im not personally ready for another cat but I really want to rescue next time around. I have noticed I have to keep her entertained a lot more and give her a lot more attention. She has a scratching post and lots of toys to play with but to be honest she sleeps in her Tipi most of the time.

Anyway there you go, a few thoughts on things I’ve learnt since living alone. I’ve just sort of sat here and typed it out as it came into my head so it kinda lacks structure but I wanted to just word vomit a little on some of my thoughts. I probably should have made this a video but oh well! Let me know if you have anything you want to share on the subject in comments!

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  1. II would definitely recommend having another cat at some point. I have always had just the one cat but when we got my last kitten, we fell in love with her sister too, so got both. It is adorable how cute they are together and how they just play together and cuddle together all the time. Kind of makes me wish I had done the same with the cats I have had previously.

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  2. it's good to hear that you feel comfortable living on your own!(: i guess some likes it more, I am the same, I enjoy having my space(:

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  3. Go you for getting out on your own and embracing it all :) It must be so nice to know it's all your own, well done Lily! x

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  4. I've been living on my own for a year and a half now and I love it. Especially after experiencing house shares. It's good to know I don't have to deal with other people's mess or noise and can just be myself in my home. Like you, sometimes it gets messier than I like but it always gets done! I love the freedom it gives me to do my own thing and makes me feel grown up. I do get lonely sometimes but I'm a person that's cool with my own company.

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  5. Nice to see you enjoying your own place so much :) I don't think I could do it alone! Looks lovely though!

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  6. Well done on achieving all of this through your blog :) X

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  7. It's been interesting read this post, I have lots of things in common with your experience (I live with my little sister now, but often she's away and even for very long period). I love to live alone!

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  8. Some great points! I agree with you, I'm quite a solo person and I sometimes feel a bit weird about it and that I shouldn't like doing stuff on my own so much - but since I've been at uni, I definitely get along better with my family and friends that now I don't see so often. I know, I haven't had to furnish any of the big stuff but home stuff is soo expensive!!

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  9. I'm so glad you're happy living alone, especially in a new city! I think I'd be quite good living alone (with a cat of course!) and I love how you've furnished your flat. It's my dream to be able to afford everything for myself like you have so I'd give myself a big high five if I were you! :) xx

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  10. So glad it's all working out for you! I agree I definitely plan to live alone in the future, so much freedom and full control of everything! Loved reading this post :) xx

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  11. I have a love/hate relationship with living alone because I do look forward to coming home to someone. However, the fact that the house is entirely yours is great! You can do whatever you want with it- design wise and cleaning wise ;)
    The 5-minute rule is a good one.
    Thanks for sharing :)

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  12. This is adorable, the little story about you and Aerys is the cutest thing.
    So glad you're happy and absolutely rocking this solo-living malarky!

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  13. Really enjoyed reading this post! I think I would quite enjoy living on my own too.

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  14. Although I don't live alone, I love time alone and a night or two with the house to myself. I think too many people are uncomfortable in their own company. It is great you realise the value of yourself xx https://champagneinateacup.wordpress.com/

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  15. Absolutely loved this and can relate so well! I work from home all day every day and never, ever feel lonely. That said, we recently just got a house bunny (though I am a crazy cat lady myself, my boyfriend has an allergy) and she's the best company ever. Loved all your moving vlogs, Aerys is so special - good for you for going it alone :-)

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  16. Looking for 1 bedroom flats at the moment & I was feeling a bit apprehensive. After reading this post I feel a bit better (and a bit more like Beyonce), so thanks! x

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  18. How lovely that you're enjoying it! I'm still saving up for my own place (was getting closer, but I just lost my car in a flash flood so that set me back). It would also just be me and my cat. I hope to get a place by next year when I'll be 25. I just like being on my own too! It's so nice! Plus, I want my cat to have more space :)

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  19. i moved out over a year ago and i never thought turning a house into a home would take that long. it took me ages until i felt my place was perfect.


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  20. It's good to hear that you enjoy living alone. I lived alone once for a few months and I absolutely hated it. I always thought I would enjoy it after being never alone in my family home, but apparently I like to have company! But that's how everyone is different.
    And you really can feel proud for achieving and affording all this! Because it is nothing to feel ashamed about!
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  21. Living alone is my goal right now but it won't happen for a while. To be Queen of your own domain is priceless, I can;t wait to do things my way. I rarely get lonely, I can be a bit of a hermit at times so I'd be thrilled

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  22. Glad to hear living on your own is going well Lily! I'd love to see Aery's having a little friend some time!

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  23. I love this honest post. Nothing beats the feeling that you've earned everything on your own! Good job :) x jill I ate noodles for breakfast

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  24. £2000 seems insane to me! When I moved into my first flat I bought everything I needed for about £300 then got anything else from Freecycle. Living alone is amazing, I really miss it! x

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  25. It is good you feel comfortable living alone, I love living on my own.


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  26. I've lived alone for over a year while I've been in grad school and I honestly enjoy it. There are some things I miss, such as splitting utilities or having dinners w/ my roommate(s) but there was always a sense of anxiety I felt when having a roommate. An interesting read about living alone that I read for a sociology class is "Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone" by Eric Klinenberg.

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  27. 25 and you have it going for yourself :) you have all the right to be proud!

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  28. I'm happy you are getting closer to your cat :)

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  29. I lived on my own for two years and had the best time. Once I started meeting new people I went out a lot and loved being able to go where I wanted, when I wanted. I experimented a lot with cooking as well, although it didn't always go well!

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  30. Things I learnt from living alone...the dishes don't magically wash themselves when you leave them alone for a few days, shame really!

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  31. This was a great read especially as I've just moved myself - whilst I'm living with another person I do get a lot of independence, and it's nice to rely on yourself and be able to support your lifestyle through your success!

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  32. I am so happy you enjoy living alone. I am the same type of person as I love doing things independently :)
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  34. Hey Lily just wondering if you would do a post/video/share some thoughts on living in Brighton. I am seriously thinking about moving there next year, how do you find it for the cost of living, social life and renting? Thanks girl :) xx

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  35. 2k to furnished whole house is not that bad :) you manage it quite well :). I've been in Brighton few times already and it's amazing city. A lot of friendly people there what is great :)

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