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how style blogging changed my life

how style blogging changed my life
how style blogging changed my life

I recently read this post on HeartIFB in which it asks the question “Why Do you Share your Personal Style”. It asks questions like "Do those of us who do it because we suffer on a sliding scale of egomania?" Are we helping our readers truly become inspired and educated on how to wear and pair garments? Are we selling a lifestyle?” and ponders how personal style blogging adds to the “me me me” culture of today.Personal style blogging has reached dizzying heights although I often ponder if it’s plateaued in recent years due to the increase in beauty and lifestyle blogging - Especially in the UK.

Style blogging has taught me that no matter how big or small I am, I still can look good. I’ve grown from feeling incredibly uncomfortable in front of the camera to someone who feels confident and happy in their own skin. On and off camera.

When I started this blog, I was at my highest weight ever and since starting this blog and posting regularly I’ve been anything from 170lbs to 120lbs. I’ve been from a size 8 to a size 14 and back again more times than I can count. Most of the time I’m a size 10, but Right now I'm probably about 10lbs heavier than I “normally” am. But I’ve always been one of those people that just goes up and down. I’m not a yo-yoer as such, I just seem to sometimes be a little bigger or a little smaller. My weight troubled me all through my teens, but looking at photos of my tiny frame back then I wish I could shake myself and tell myself to not to worry so much about my body.

Style blogging taught me to be confident and challenging within with my own style, shape and what I like to wear rather than dwelling on the fact I'm not size 0 and 5ft 10. I’d be lying if like pretty every female on the planet I’d like to be 20lbs lighter and a few inches taller. I like burgers and sleeping too much to really care all that much. I just like clothes and looking nice and sharing that online, especially with people who were interested in my style, which boosted my confidence more than anything.

Im proud that in 2014 style blogging accommodates all - It’s non exclusive. Long gone are the days where only the skinniest richest bloggers posted their perfectly put together outfits in dream locations. You can be any size, race, nationality, income, height, shape - you name it there is something for everyone.

Maybe I have a vapid approach to how I feel about my personal style blog, but I cannot gush more about how it’s changed me in confidence and body image wise. As someone who’s always struggled with weight and body image it’s made me realise I can look and feel good about myself despite not being (and trust me, I hate it when people say this) “as skinny as other bloggers”. In some weird way I think it’s given me the reassurance that it doesn’t matter what size I am, as long as I dress with purpose and confidence I look and more importantly feel, pretty damn good.

68 comments

  1. And that is why you are one of my faves bloggers!!!! Xxx

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  2. Loved this post! I've followed your blog since 2009 and feel proud as a reader of your achievements! Been going through a learning curve myself recently to not be so concerned with an idealised body image but to just be happy with the small things in life :)

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  3. Such a great post Lily! I'm so pleased you're confident in your own skin & you're spreading such a positive body image message. Much needed in today's society.

    Sam | Tiny Paint Pot xx

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  4. You look incredible.
    I love how diverse the blogging world has become and whilst many people will refuse to believe it's anything other than egomania, i disagree. It expands our minds and shows fashion as an identity, not just a garment in a closet and i absolutely adore how it's helping people to grow confident enough to be 100% themselves xo

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  5. So completely agree with this, its not about owning all the designer clothes, or being the 'perfect size' - if there really is one- its a place in which to show and demonstrate your individual style and creativity. :)
    P

    www.jemappelleparis.com

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  6. I love this post! I think it's great that style blogging has led to you being more confident, that's what blogging is all about. Finding something that you love and sticking to it, until you can't imagine not doing it at all. I love when I have something on that makes me feel really good, because you just know that the day is going to turn out well because of it!

    holly la beau

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  7. I've been always telling that if you feel comfortable in your own body other people will notice it! I love watching pictures of perfect girls with perfect weight but you know what. For them it is so easy to style everything, for us, normal people it is more challenging and thats why I love even more blogs of normal girl, like you are! And that's probably the reason why you are one of the most popular style blogger! Keep going girl, you are such an inspiration!

    www.taleofmissa.wordpress.com

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  8. Lovely post. I want to thank you for your passion and motivation to keep doing what you're doing. It's really inspired me to take my blog to the next level.

    xx,
    http://www.thetinydarling.com

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  9. Beautiful post! Always love reading them and your style is definitely inspiring!

    href="http://rippedjeans.co/">Ripped Jeans

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  10. Nice topic post! I love the idea that style blogging is open to everyone. I wish I knew that years ago when I wanted to start a blog but was to scared because I didn't have the perfect clothing pieces, a nice camera, etc. Thank you for sharing! x

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  11. Such an inspiring post; this was lovely to read :)

    Karina xx

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  12. This was so refreshing to read! I've been following your blog for so long and I always loved your personal style and how confident and comfortable with yourself you seemed. As an anxiety sufferer, I've definitely grown confidence from blogging, though I can't say I'm fully comfortable in my own skin yet - that's a work in progress! I agree - it's amazing how varied and accepting the blogging community has become. It makes me so happy to see all these people expressing themselves as individuals and being proud of it. Keep up the good work, Lily - your posts make such fantastic reads xxx

    www.liv-in-fashion.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. Ah such a lovely post, I love the dress on the first photo by the way!

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  14. Such a great post! I *AM* 5 foot 10 and I find it difficult to dress (hence the blog exploring style, how to dress, inspirations etc) I have a blogger height wall (which you kindly told me your height so I could add you :) I have found so many inspiring bloggers- real people, not airbrushed models with a makeup artist, hair stylist, fashion stylist and photographer on hand to get 'perfect' shots.

    Anyway, it takes time to feel comfortable- I think we all assume that everyone else is 100% confident and comfortable in their own style, but in reality we are all 'winging it' a bit (and that is part of the fun)! The best accessory is a big smile. I love the way you share what is on your heart and aren't afraid of being real. Thank you Lily xx

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  15. Love reading this post. I think you look great and style does not have a size.
    xx
    Alexandra
    Glam O’Clock | Beauty Blog

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  16. such an inspirational post and so lovely to hear how style blogging has allowed you to make you comfortable in your own skin :)

    Rachel x
    Style Soup

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  17. It's lovely that your blog helped you so much! Mine helps me too by keeping me occupied and I value it much more for that x
    Freya's Fashion Chapter

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  18. I actually just teared up - emotional wreck. Love your blog Lily :) x

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  19. This is an amazing post, good to see that you've grown in confidence. I absolutely love your blog!

    http://followeroffashionn.blogspot.com

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  20. the thing i love about you most Lily is that you are so different to other bloggers (in a good way). When people say they're a blogger an instant stereotype jumps to mind of skinny, rich, flawless etc. and what i like about you is that you show your readers that you don't have to fit certain stereotypes to do what it is you want to do. we don't need to be model skinny and model height to fashion blog or blog in general and we don't have to be rich and have millions in the bank to be fashionable. great post Lily :)

    http://georgiapowell.blogspot.co.uk/

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  21. This is a lovely post- so well written with many important messages! :)

    Style Sunrise☀

    :)
    x

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  22. this is amazing, happiness is one of the most important things, and when you start to accept who you are everything gets better. Love your blog and you are such an inspiration:-)

    Rebecca x

    http://petiteandpale.blogspot.co.uk/

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  23. I actually found this post really inspiring to read. I've suffered with BDD for a long time and I find blogging a great way to boost my confidence as I can already see how much my style and knowledge of how to dress my body has increased. I still don't like what I see in the mirror, and I still compare my figure to those of other bloggers, worrying that I don't make the clothes look as good as they do, but I'm gradually finding that this effects me a little less the longer I blog for :) xo

    LJLV | UK Personal Style

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  24. It's amazing that blogging has gave you confidence, which you translate well to us, your readers!

    Megan xo
    Thumbelina Lillie | UK Beauty & Fashion Blog

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  25. loved this lily!

    check out my blog at
    http://georgianicolaou.co.uk

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  26. This is one of my favorite posts I have ever read! Everything you said is so true!! As someone who is just starting out blogging and by no means a narcissist or size zero I think the points you made are important points to keep in mind and keep me motivated to do what I do! I'm a huge fan of your work!!

    -Ruby Xx

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  27. You are the reason I started my blog, I love your style and I always use it as inspiration and I find you so personable and relatable - I thought I could never have a blog because I'm not 'perfect' but now that I am blogging it makes me feel so comfortable and confident. I'm so glad I found your blog because it inspired me to make my own!

    Josey x
    Tinyedge.blogspot.co.uk

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  28. This was such a nice post to read. Its great to know you have improved in confidence and how much you have evolved over your years of blogging. Lack of confidence is the main reason why I started blogging as I think its a great way to express what you like and your individuality x

    http://k-males.blogspot.co.uk/

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  29. Love this, it's so true! My confidence is only starting to get better but blogging definetely helps a lot! X

    hailandharmony.blogspot.ie
    // BLOGLOVIN

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  30. I am loving your photos and your style! Amazing post because they're so, so true.

    www.angerawrs.co.uk

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  31. Amazing post! x

    https://www.marjorievie.blogspot.com

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  32. I absolutely loved this post, everything you say is so true. Its so refreshing to see people who blog aren't all super skinny, or super tall, everyone is different. I think you always look amazing regardless of any weight you have been, ive never even noticed because I'm always too fascinated at how amazing you look in the clothes.

    Jess x
    www.jessicalaar.blogspot.co.uk

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  33. Bravo Lily! This was a fantastic post to read! Real credit to you for speaking out so confidently about this as weight and body confidence is a struggle among many women and to have it addressed the way you have in this post was great and I agree blogging can definitely boost confidence and I prefer looking at bloggers for inspiration on how to style a certain clothing item or accessory or how good a beauty product is as it is more relatable than seeing it on a photoshopped model in a magazine :) Also for the record, I've never even realised your weight has gone up and down in images throughout your blog, I spend the time reading your posts and focusing on your clothes on your latest outfits :D

    www.violetdaffodils.com
    xx

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  34. this was such a great post! thanks for sharing


    http://hashtagliz.com

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  35. You've probably heard this a lot, but you are one of the most unique bloggers out there! I very much appreciate that so much because many other bloggers and comfortable with talking about this or can't even relate and are put on such a high pedestal. You're a great inspiration that I've been reading about and watching for 2 years now and you deserve everything you have right now and more. One day I wish I can be as confident as you! Love ya!! xx

    -- http://the-stylust.blogspot.com

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  36. This is the exact reason why you're one of my favourite all time bloggers. Preach it girl! Lovely post to have read :) xx


    Emily ⎜ daisylocks.blogspot.com.au

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  37. Lovely print!
    XO
    Jeanne
    http://fashionmusingsdiary.com

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  38. This is why you're one of my favourite bloggers <3 I love that this gave you confidence and you've really inspired me to start my own blog! Xx
    Chelsea Street

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  39. Trust me 'vapid' is never a word that comes to mind when reading either of your blogs. You are definitely not a follower, never seem to fall for hype and when I feel like I've got myself in a bit of a style rut, this is where I come.

    Reeeeaaally interesting that you mentioned the growth of 'me me me' culture though. I have been thinking about that a lot recently with regards to blogging. Interesting stuff.

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  40. I like your blog Lily because your style is attainable to people like me. I like that you mix Topshop with Primark. You wear clothes of a similar style that I like too. I also like the fact you'll say if an item is no good, despite whenever it was a freebie or not (which differentiates you to many other bloggers!) You appear very down to earth & relatable and that's why your blog is my favourite :)

    Jen xx
    www.kitsch-n-sync.com

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  41. Lovely post Lily!!

    www.mandybajwa.blogspot.com

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  42. Absolutely love this - you should be incredibly proud of yourself Lily! I am totally all-for being confident in your own skin, no matter what size/height/race you are.

    Looking lovely as always,

    Shona x
    http://shonarose.blogspot.co.uk/

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  43. This is such a wonderful post, I love how honest you are and how empowering it is to read your posts. It's so refreshing to read this sort of thing. This just sums up why I read your blog every day. www.cottonandcandie.blogspot.co.uk

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  44. You really have achieved a lot - be proud! x
    http://my--socalledlife.blogspot.com.es/

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  45. I love your blog because well, first of all, I like your style, but your personality as well (and I think that's important when I read a blog). And I kind of recognize myself in you because I'm not that tall either (about 5.4 I think). Love this post :)

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  46. Such a brilliant read Lily, I wish everyone could feel comfortable in their own skin and the world would be a better place!

    http://shewhoisshort.blogspot.co.uk/

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  47. That is so nice...
    I wish blogging had more of an impact of me. I hate the ups & downs of it.

    Valentina
    Valentina Duracinsky Blog

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  48. It's true, there are soooo many different looking bloggers out there, it feels like anyone with a good blog/good content can make it, no matter their looks/size :)
    http://www.georgieonthewall.blogspot.com

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  49. Inspiring and brilliant post ! Size does not matter as long as you feel content with your own self.

    Andrea,
    GUCCI&POLA.

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  50. blogging isn't always about helping other people. sometimes it just about helping yourself. You blog to make yourself feel better and confident. I have done that. And that is pretty justified.
    What looks like 'me me' to people might be our way to feel confident and keep doing what we love <3
    http://www.finixpost.com

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  51. This is such an inspiring post and it's your posts like this one that make you my favourite blogger x

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  52. so inspiring Lily!!!
    Would be so appreciative if anyone would check out this brand new blog...
    beauty, fashion, fitness and foooood!
    http://thelifestyleeblog.blogspot.co.uk x x x

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  53. Blogging and particularly fashion/style blogging is a really great way for people to come out of their shell; I've gotten better with how I piece things together, and it's also helped my mum build up some photography skills!

    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Lifestyle Food Fashion Beauty - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  54. Lily you are so right! I love reading your blog, you say what I think!

    Emma at www.collagemepretty.blogspot.co.uk

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  55. I loved this post! I think you're right it doesn't matter what/who you are x

    FashionOnMyBack // Fashion, Style & Beauty

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  56. Good post I totally agree love you xxxx

    www.fashionssista.blogspot.com

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  57. So glad that blogging has given u so much confidence!

    http://wiltedxfaded.blogspot.co.uk/

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  58. This is such a similar story to mine! In the last 4/5 yrs I've lost 5at, battled to maintain, started a degree as an older student and become more obsessed with fashion than ever before. I've begun taking fashion risks for me and feel brave enough to share them with the world on my blog that I started earlier this year! #GreatMindsBlogAlive xx
    curiousaliceloves.wordpress.com

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  59. And this is why you are one of my absolute favorites!! I struggle so much with my weight, and it just gets tougher when I see how skinny some of the other girls blogging out there are. You are such an inspiration, never change who you are! :) <3

    http://exploresmore.com
    https://www.bloglovin.com/blog/12308011

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  61. I don't read fashion magazines. Not because I don't love fashion. I do. When I was younger I wanted to be a fashion designer. It's something that's always interested me. I don't read them because they mess up my self image. I always feel fat after reading them. (got a blog post scheduled soon dedicated to this topic actually). I don't feel like that when reading fashion blogs. Quite the opposite. The blogging community is such a welcoming community, and supportive of one another. Yes, I still have moments where I'd like it if I looked a bit more like that blogger... But blogs are much much healthier for my self image and confidence
    Aimee
    http://aimeebelleblog.blogspot.co.uk
    x

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  62. This is such a great post, with such true words. I have never been happy with how I look, but I feel like since I've really gotten into the blogging world and have seen how people of all shapes and sizes are confident in who they are and what they look like - I feel encouraged to do the same. Keep doing what you do! x

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  63. Great post, it really inspired me as I'm really interested in style blogging/ vlogging but I don't feel comfortable in front of the camera. But now after reading your post it's made me want to go ahead a do it, because after all you shouldn't worry about what other people think. You should do things that make you happy. xx

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  64. I love you Lily! I've followed you pretty much from when you very first started posting outfit photos, and it's been so cool to watch your blog grow and your style develop. You are much more interesting than a lot of other style bloggers around at the moment as you have a much more individual style. Keep doing what you do (y)

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