giving up blogging

should I give up blogging
Why you should keep blogging

Real talk. I almost gave up blogging last year. I was very ill for the majority of last year and battled through a lot of personal demons. In online terms I had what I called my blogging mid life crisis. I didnt want to be “LLYMLRS” anymore. In part as a person I didn’t feel like Lily Melrose anymore. My online life and real life were two different things. I was just this pixel person who dropped the vowels in her name. I was overwhelmed by life and my blog got pushed to the side. I can’t tell you how man times I sat there thinking why was my traffic dropping? Why was I not getting comments anymore? Had I lost it? Should I just give up?

One thing I get asked or told about is how people give up blogging or are thinking about giving it up. During my downtime as an online personality I noticed one thing. I wasn’t putting any effort so why was I expecting stuff in return? If I wasn’t doing anything creative, interesting and engaging why was I expecting things to come to me. Put simply if I wasn’t putting anything into my into my blog so nothing was happening. 

As soon as you take time off blogging thats when momentum starts to slow down. Thats when it’s harder to get back into the swing of things because engagement has gone down and your already feeling a little demotivated. While I do genuinely feel bad when I don’t post, I blogged every single day for about 2 years to make my blog the success it’s became. I worked my ass off rushing home from university, a full time job and a busy social life to work on my blog and my content. Then from that it eventually evolved into me having a wonderful career as a full time blogger. Me pushing myself out there online helped me reach my goals. While I never started out wanting to be a full time blogger, I’d be lying if a part of me was thinking “What if”? 

So my advice is the more of yourself I put out into the community, if thats by posting more, tweeting more and replying to emails (which even after 5 years I’m terrible at!) the more you will get back in return. You should always give without expectations. Every positive action has a consequence. 

Blog because you love it. Because it inspires you. Because it helps you grow as a person. Blog because it makes you happy or because your helping others. Blog with consistency and passion and most of all just do it! It’s such a cool thing to be a part of. It may take practice, loads of perseverance and a hell of a lot of time to hit your personal goals. But just don’t stop.

97 comments

  1. Yes, yes yes!! Perfect response.
    I work my butt of blogging and I'm only 14... you ~have~ to do the boring stuff, you ~have~ to be consistent, that's what it takes to get to the good stuff. I just wish more people understood!
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  2. This is one of the most inspiring posts I've read in a while. I gave it all up a few months back and I recently started up again but I'd lost a lot of traffic and subscribers/followers which was such a shame. Even if you consider stopping, I recommend never ever fully deleting everything because the time will come when you realise what you did wrong and you'll regret loosing everything you spent so long creating

    Shaun Nolan // Shaunyland

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  3. I'm very happy you didn't stop! Your blog was one of the first I ever read and I think its wonderful xx

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  4. I know exactly how you feel. I've been contemplating giving up blogging over the past couple of months because life is just overwhelming right now meaning the blog isn't getting the effort put into it that my readers deserve. I'm still posting daily, because I'm scared of dropping the readers that I've taken years to build up but I'm starting to realise it's just too much to keep up with. I do love it though, and I'm still getting so many comments and tweets saying how people love my posts/blog and how I inspire them - I can't give it up when I get things like that. Yours was the first blog I ever read, and you were the one who inspired me to start blogging 3 years ago - even though I didn't go down the same route as you (i.e. style) but I loved reading yours that much that I wanted to give it a go myself. I still read yours every single day, so I hope you do continue - but only for as long as it still makes you happy and doesn't mean you're putting extra pressure on yourself or making yourself more ill. I do feel like I've come on a bit of a journey with you and seen how not only your blog, but how your style has progressed and your experience of moving to London to how you've become so settled. I love the new routes you go down with the added lifestyle touches too. But it's good to know that even people who are "bigger" bloggers/have been doing it a long time still feel the same sometimes. Makes us realise you're as human as the rest of us! I hope I can get my blogging motivation back and fall back in love with it soon, I'm proud of everything I've achieved so far that I'd love to be able to continue. But a huge thank you to you too!
    Rebecca-Louise, Autumn Leaves - UK Beauty Blog

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  5. Really motivating! I'm so glad that you didn't give up blogging. I really love your blog and hope that you'll continue as long as it is a fun thing for you to do. ☺

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  6. Ah I absolutely adore this Lily it so inspires me. Blogging is such a difficult thing to keep going when there's a lot going on but I find it's also a great escape to just help you forget everything every now and then. Almost like a little break. I do find though sometimes you do just need to take a break from everything like blogging and youtube to make some time for yourself! Great post! xx

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  7. This really helped me! I'm currently taking a break of blogging, because it frustrated me lately, but you are right! And I can't wait to get back to blogging.

    xx Marie (OldCaledonia)

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  8. It was very touching and sweet. I'm glad you overcame everything and you're feeling better now. I'm very happy you decided to keep blogging because it has been a pleasure reading your post and following you. I wish you the best of luck for everything you have yet to live. Take care x
    Serena from http://serenbird.blogspot.com/

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  9. Hello Lily ! This post is so nice and helpful ! I'm sure it's gonna help tones of bloggers... really !
    What you are saying is so damn true !
    Thanks for this amazing post, you inspire me daily for my french blog girl :) x
    lots of love ! Victoria
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  10. I think this pretty much every day, especially when as you mentioned you lack traffic and comments. I defiantly think that is my main motivation, and no matter what people say it 100% is everybody's! People can say 'oh I just do it because I enjoy it', I do enjoy it hugely but having people enjoy your stuff makes it much more worth it.

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  11. Lily, I've loved every post of yours I've read, and I heartily apologise from never showing appreciation to you! Keep up all you do - your blog is fantastic x

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  12. I was worried at first you were giving up (thank god you're not as you have a fantastic blog to read !), but it's interesting to read why you did contemplate it. At the moment my blog is my work even if it's unpaid but I love the content I create and I really want to network more and meet new people through it. I think your end paragraph about putting more effort in is one i'll take on board - i need to contact other bloggers and put myself out even more to get more back :)
    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Fashion Lifestyle + Photography - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. This was a great post for me to read as i've basically pretty mcuh just started blogging, so thanks for th advice! and i love your blog, i'm so glad i found it

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  14. This post was perfect, everything is true. Blogging has a lot of benefits but it is so fun to be apart of this community! Love your blog, and I hope you never stop :)

    xoxo, S
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  15. I am so glad you didn't give up you are such inspiring unique person. Keep it up! :)

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  16. love this post, always need a bit of motivation!

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  17. Love this post! So glad you didn't give up, love your blog x

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  18. Very inspiring post, you deserve every success you have had its evident from your two blogs and youtube channel that you work very very hard.

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  19. For a couple of months I did stop blogging. Instead I focused on getting my IRL life back on track so I had something consistent in my life before I could be consistent with readers. In the end I started fresh and I enjoy it more now than before!

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  20. I am only 14 and my blog gets 1 or 2 views everyday and I feel like giving up but I think to get as far as you have, you have to be at my stage before hand :)

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  21. Very nice blog post ! I think each blogger goes through that moment, at least when you do it for years !

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  22. Love how real you always are Lily! So glad you didn't give it up though,I love your style too much!! :) xo

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  23. This post is so true! And I'm happy you didn't give it up! I tried getting into blogging a few years back and I was a bit too shy. Now I'm back into blogging but I can't help but wonder "What if I kept blogging a few years ago. Where would I be today?" But nothing is too late and now I feel like I'm more inspired than ever!

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  24. I really needed this, Lily.

    My blog was just starting to do well, I was just getting into a nice routine when a close family member passed away. I've been trying to get back into it but it's been so hard to find things that don't seem meaningless.

    This has really inspired me though. The majority of people in blogging are so lovely and supportive. Thank you so much for posting this :)

    Elena
    Xxx

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  25. What you wrote is great and inspiring to me, sometimes we just have to feel more confident and try with all our strengh! Outfits, trends and street style on lb-lc Fashion blog

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  26. Inspiring post! I am so glad you didn't give up! X O

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  27. Inspirational post, def makes me want to stick at it :-) xx

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  28. That was really powerful. I feel more inspired and motivated now to put out a wider variety of content ^^ I'm glad you didn't give it up x

    Anon Style

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  29. i agree that the more you put into it the more you get out. I'm so bad at starting and stopping and I think that's more demotivating than just scheduling a few posts and taking a few days break if you're not feeling it, rather than just give up/back out of blogging altogether. I really do think that personal circumstances and frame of mind affect motivation to blog though, for a few months last year and the beginning of this year I wasn't in a good place either, and it completely disengaged me from my blog (and other things I enjoyed, too).

    Sarah xo | PolkaDotLemon

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  30. I agree - blogging definitely requires work but it's worth it when you think about the friendships and opportunities that become available. I also think you should definitely blog for yourself and do what makes you happy :) The whole process will be so much more enjoyable then xx

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  31. it's nice to read a personal post like this. I too often feel hard on myself & wonder why i haven't achieved X,Y,Z when I put SO much effort and dedication into my blog. Like you say, rushing home from a full time blog to maintain my daily blog posts, it makes me ill & far too run down. It's hard not to be hard on yourself and seek 'success' (whatever that is in this bloggersphere). Now i just try to remember to say well done to myself, even for little things, else it just takes all the enjoyment out of blogging.

    Mel x
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  32. i could totally relate to this. i originally started my blog a year ago, but inside i just felt like i was forcing something, forcing content just to have content, and i knew i needed to really think about what i wanted to do. it took me longer than i thought, but now i am happier than ever and I'm addicted to writing/blogging. its comforting to know that even someone like you with a very popular blog can feel like giving up at times <3

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  33. During my final year at Uni, I just haven't had the time to blog, and my blog has seriously suffered because of it.
    I actually just posted & tweeted yesterday about how down I felt about my "failing" blog so I totally can relate to this - but i'm starting to get my mojo back and hopefully it'll reflect in my posts!

    I'm glad you didn't give it up.

    Kelly from | DayDreams & DaisyChains

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  34. This is such a great post! I can totally relate to thinking about giving up the blog, I've been there too. But I'm really glad you didn't wuit because your blog is amazing and you have sooo many readers who would be sad if you did, so keep up the good work! :)

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  35. I totally thought you were just about to tell us you were giving up, so pleased that's not the case Lily! A lovely post though, it's kind of nice to hear this from someone so well loved as you. I'm sure everyone has felt like giving up at some point, I have, just because I feel my content and photos don't match the amazing quality of others and I'm not the most creative of people. x

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  36. SO glad you didn't give up blogging! This post was a great read, so refreshing and inspiring. :) xo
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  37. When I first read this I thought you were giving up and got scared! Even though I don't blog I always think about these things as a journalist and completely understand! You're posts/pictures/videos are always great to watch and read and definitely inspiring. Thanks for not quitting!

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  38. How awesome is this post? I get so overwhelmed by my the amount of a blog takes. If I'm not enjoying it, I won't blog simples. The last bit was perfect... blog because you love it. there should be no other reason. love this post!!

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  39. So motivational Lily, thank you for your wise words!x

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  40. So glad you didn't give up! I don't think people realise the amount of time, effort and work that goes into blogging. Such a great and inspiring post!

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  41. Thank you for this very inspirational post, Lily. I do have times when I wonder why I blog, but when I put effort in and get feedback in return I realise why! I love your blog so much; please don't give up!!

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  42. Sundays seem to be the day of reflection. I have finished reading another inspiring post and here is another one, telling me the same type of thing. You are completely right, you cannot expect something to flourish if you don't put the effort in.

    This was such an inspiring read, I'll probably give myself a kick up butt....tomorrow..lol

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  43. Hi Lily,

    I love this post! In fact, I've bookmarked it for a reminder when I'm feeling demotivated. I love your blog, I've followed it for years, and remember the most important thing is to keep doing what makes you happy xx

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  44. Love this post! I'm really glad you didn't give up blogging Lily, I always look forward to your posts!

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  45. Such an inspiring post. For someone who is just starting out blogging, and not entirely sure where I'm going with it, this has given me the motivation and drive I've been looking for. Thank you.

    curlyredhairgirl.blogspot.com

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  46. This was so helpful! I am really struggling with blogging at the moment and this definitely gave me a fresh outlook :) <3
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  47. Dear, your blog is amazing! i’m impressed by your design & photos!
    and you outfits deserve separate attention!
    everything is magnificent!

    I have just posted a blog it would be great if you gave me some feedback

    will be happy to see you in my blog)


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  48. I nearly took a mini heart attack when I saw this title, haha! I've just started blogging so it's still all new and interesting to me. But I've been following both of your blogs for about 2 years now, mainly because you do everything differently from the rest of the blogging community. Even the way you edit your videos, it's always something so fresh and different to watch.

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  49. I've felt like that recently, now I feel motivated to blog more often! Amazing post xx

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  50. Hi Lily, I'm glad you didn't give up your blog! I just discovered your blog and this great post!
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! And I think you are absolutely right. Putting effort is the main thing and being creative the other!
    Wish you a great start to a new week!

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  51. I can't tell you how much I love this post. x

    Angela | The Sunday Chapter

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  52. This is all so true! I have my blogging ups and downs / lulls too, and you're right - you're only going to get out what you put in. Great post Lily - made me think a bit :)

    Gem x | flutter and sparkle - UK beauty and lifestyle blog

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  53. Just love your blog!!!

    http://buttercupsandlollies.blogspot.co.uk/

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  54. What an inspirational post! well done Lily you deserve to be where you are today :)

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  55. I'm so glad you didn't stop! your blog is one of the first I ever started reading, and it inspired me to make my own blog! thanks for the encouragement. :)
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  56. Great advice, i totally agree!

    Love Emma xx

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  57. After reading this post and your comments I don't feel like such as dick for falling out with my blog. I'v now happily fallen in love but I did feel a little bit fickle! I hope to have success like your one day, I just have to keep on working!
    sophielfarrell.blogspot.co.uk
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  58. Great post!! Very inspiring and helpful!
    L x
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  59. This is perfect motivation for people like me who are just starting out blogging! Really inspiring :)

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  60. Great post! You're so right. I always used to try to blog so hard, but I was never consistent. Now I am much more consistent & my traffic seems to be increasing daily! x

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  61. I'm making such an effort to blog every few days now and this has motivated me! Thanks!
    alicekatex ♥

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  62. love this post
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  63. ***Blog because you love it. Because it inspires you. Because it helps you grow as a person. Blog because it makes you happy***

    -you hit the nail directly on the head.

    Superb post.

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  64. I'm glad you didn't give up! There are times I considered but I enjoy it too much, I love these pictures, what effect do you use and what app :)?
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  65. I panicked when I saw the title! Haha, how can my fave blogger give up!?
    In a weird way it's nice to know even the most successful bloggers have bad blogging days. But in all honesty, your helpful and lovely advice has come at a great time for me. I've been feeling very down another blogging, and you've motivated me to try harder, spend more time on my blog and be the best blogger I can be. Thank you. It's because you're so inspirational that your words mean so much!

    CAT xo

    What Cat Says | BlogLovin'

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  66. I feel you, I can't imagine how much pressure you must put yourself on to constantly create new content. I find myself getting down when comments get low and interactions are nonexistant but I think a lot of it os down to me. At the end of the day sometimes it's best to take ourselves off the net and remember it's just the internet at the end of the day. You've done so well to get yourself this far it would be a shame for you to not enjoy it and put your health on the line for it. Take care of yourself lovely!
    xxx
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  67. That is such a great article - I agree 100%, you have to give it your all if you want something in return x

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  68. I'm glad you didn't give up Lily! I've been reading your blog for yonks and it would have been weird not to see you popping up in my feed anymore. Love your honesty in this post too, I often stress that comments and engagement have gone down, but I think partly the sheer volume of bloggers is a result of this.
    xx

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  69. This was extremely inspiring. It's lovely when you do posts like this so people can relate. I've definitely contemplated quitting several times especially when people have said negative things about my blog. But you just have to persevere. Thank you for this post Lily

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  70. I think every blogger has been through those times when they just want to give up, and I think this reminds all of us that there is some beauty and some worth in the effort and time we put into blogging. Thank you so much for this post, you're definitely one of my inspirations and your content is always so engaging :)

    Mel // izzipenelope

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  71. I like the leather jacket you are wearing, it rocks. http://www.tonarmoire.com/

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  72. Oh my gosh, i love your post! finally someone talks about this! you are awesome lily!

    Sophia
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  73. Very wise words, your post is really great as it addresses issues every blogger has to face sooner or later!
    XO
    Jeanne
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  74. Really inspiring post. i am 100% agree from you. You give me inspiration to do blogging again. This post reminds all of bloggers that there is worth & beauty in the effort and time we put into blogging.

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  75. Great Post! Over the 2 years I've been blogging, there have been a lot of rollercoaster moments. I've taken so many blog hiatuses because life has gotten in the way but I'm starting to realise (I know after 2 years) that blogging is hard work and commitment. And, like you said, if you want to reach your personal goals you do have to put some work in.

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  76. Inspiring post, thank you. So glad you got through your tough time. Very true that sometimes you just have to DO instead of thinking too much.

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  77. Thanks for this Lily, our blog is still pretty new and we're still trying to find our way but it's good to know that everyone starts out the same way, Meabh
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  78. You're one of the main reasons I started blogging when I was always too swcared to in the past.
    So I'm glad that you didn't xx
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  79. awesome tips! love this.
    xx
    daniella
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  80. Great post! I have told myself give it one solid year of blogging, posting 4-5 times a week and then revaluate. It has helped when I am tired or questioning, "Why."

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  81. I love this post! I think everyone has their doubtful moments and we all need a break from time to time, but if blogging is something you truly love you should eventually get back into the saddle :)
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  82. I don't think I could relate to a blog post so much, but this one seems to have surprised me as I related to everything you said on this post.

    Around March this year I stopped blogging so much and it lasted until the start of this month. I haven't been doing very well in my personal life and as much as I love writing on my blog getting my life straightened out was my main priority. Sadly due to taking a break I also lost a lot of views on my blog as well as the motivation to write, only more so recently have I started to somewhat gain motivation... But my blog is still somewhat quiet, which sucks!

    I'm glad you came back to blogging as you're an awesome blogger! :D

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  83. Glad to know even the big-leaguers get de-motivated sometimes. This has definitely inspired me to push myself back into blogging and I'm glad you got through the hard times and came out fighting, I personally think LLYMLRS (and ETC) have never been better :)

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  84. You're blog is amazing, makes me so motivated! Xx

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  85. w o w! reading this post just made me realize how much I love blogging and how many great things it gives back after putting in some effort, I definitely need to start posting more and giving less excuses to myself!

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  86. This is a great post! Inspiring :-)

    http://beautywithstylee.blogspot.co.uk/ I hope you can check my blog out sometime xx

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  87. I'm so so glad you kept going with your blog Lily because you create amazing content! I'm so happy that I found your blog a few months ago. I totally understand what you mean- it can be so hard to keep up the momentum with a blog, but (most of the time) it's so worth it, isn't it! x

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  88. Thank you for keeping on. http://www.tonarmoire.com/

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  89. I recently started blogging and its not as easy as it looks, and i know its always going to be a work in progress. This was so inspiring for someone new to the blogging world. Thanks for the inspiration!

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  90. Well your content is some of the most interesting and creative that I read! Thank you for being so inspiring to so many of us! Keep up the hard work!

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  91. I've been following you for a few years, and am so glad that you didn't give up blogging. Keep at it! Thanks for a great encouraging post.

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  92. I'm really glad that you didn't give up blogging! You are such an inspiration and I always look forward to reading your posts! And this post was very inspiring itself!
    Keep up the good work Lily!
    xx Ann-Kathrin

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  93. I am so glad you didn't give up, otherwise I would never have discovered your little corner of the web!

    I have only been blogging for 9 months and sometimes feel like giving up....so goodness knows how you do it! But you're right. It's all about putting in the effort. I have a lot of respect for you and your work and hope one day my blog will be half as good as yours :)

    Jo xx

    She Wears Burgundy

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