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Style isn’t something you have or you don’t. It’s personal and something totally unique to you. You’re the one who defines what you like and don’t like and while as much as fashion magazines try to force things on us - we are the ones who get to define our personal looks.

I never dwell on if I’m “fashionable” or not. My style is very much about me and what I like at a certain period of time. I’ve been posting my daily outfits on the internet for the past five years now. GAH HAS IT REALLY BEEN THAT LONG. Here’s what I wore four years ago, three years ago, two years ago, one year ago and the most recent one and as you can see style changes.

As I said style is something you choose yourself. I think style generally comes down to confidence in yourself and being able to pick out what you do and don’t like. But I do feel thats a whole new topic all together which I plan on touching on another time. But for now I thought I’d share a few tips to nudge you in the right direction of defining your own personal style.

1. Collate.

I’m not talking about pintresting… pinning. Can you tell Im not hugely into Pinterest? But literally save as many images, clippings, screen caps or photos of things that inspire you. Think magazines, clothes you like in store, instagrams, people on the street. Well maybe not people on the street but you get my drift. My housemate has a folder on her phone with screen caps of items she likes and clothes that inspires her. This way she has a visual record of things to look out for or refer back to when shes shopping. Having a visual moodboard of style ideas will help inspire you develop your own.

2. Experiment.

Sometimes I like to go into shops and pull a pile of clothes I like and just go try them on. I don’t know why people find the idea of trying loads of stuff on and not keeping anything a bit daunting. Working in retail it never bothered me if people kept everything or just one item they’d tried on. It just annoyed me when people didnt put things back on the hangers properly! Don’t feel embarrassed going into a changing room with an armful of clothes and not keeping anything! They are for you to try things on, they wouldnt be there if they didnt expect you to try stuff! Experiment and see what may or may not work for you. Try new shapes, styles, colours, fits and patterns. The only person who’s going to see it inside that changing room is yourself!

3. Document.

As a fashion blogger its kinda my thing taking photos of every single thing I wear. BUT don’t have to rope someone in to take your photos,  Most people have a smart phone and access to a full length mirror! You don’t even have to pop them online - keep ‘em for personal use.Simply take snaps of every outfit you wear, even if your not sure you like them. Take a snap on your phone and keep a visual diary of what you wear.It’s great as a reference point when you have those days “you have nothing to wear” and also a nice point to rebuild outfits from. For example you might think that a certain shape suits you better or you like a certain colour on you. It might inspire you to add something else to look.

4. Concept.

This was suggested to me by a stylist friend when she tries to get an idea of what clients might like. Create a little style concept. I look of it as a little brief to yourself. All about how you’d like to dress and styles you might like to try.  I describe my style as a little bit grungy with a soft but not girly edge. I like to wear leather jackets, jeans, skate shoes, loud prints in monochrome. I love grey jersey, texture and anything oversized.Admittedly how I'd like to dress and how I do dress are two different things! 

5. Think about it.

Admittedly I spend quite a while thinking about what to wear. Like most people on this planet I don’t just magic an outfit of thin air. The most stylish peeps I know don’t just wake up and walk to their wardrobe and the perfect dream outfit is there waiting and glowing for them. It takes time to think about what you like, what suits you and what will and won’t work. Thinking about what goes together and what does, what shapes suit you and so on. My little technique is to make lists and notes on items I like and want to add to my wardrobe. I stalk websites and blogs and think quite a lot about what I like and don’t like. I guess it's all part of being a blogger and a fashion enthusiast at the same time!

The thing about personal style is that there is no right or wrong. it’s all about personal preference. Having that signature style doesn’t come easy but if you ask anyone what makes someone stylish they won’t know how to answer. The means to create and express yourself through style with whatever budget you have is something that we all have the ability to do it’s just something you need to be open to. It takes time to find something you're totally comfortable with.  I personally don’t think there is anything wrong with sticking to a style and running with it. If you find a look you like and it works for you then rock it! Don’t dwell too much on what is or isn’t in fashion and focus on what you like and don’t like. Style constantly develops and evolves and that's one of the most exciting things about it.

76 comments

  1. Great post!

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  2. Hi Lily ^^,
    First up, wow! You´ve always got an awesome sense of fashion! I think documentation is the best thing to do to see how you´ve developed. Another good thing would be too put all your hangers in your wardrobe in one direction. After two weeks you can see which ones face the other directions, so you can see what you really wear often and which you like the most. And then you could style around thos few pieces you know you really like ^^
    Love your blog so so much! You´re a huge inporation for me!
    Have a lovely day!
    xxx
    Sophia
    http://one-dollar-milkshake.blogspot.com/

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  4. What an interesting and diffferent piece, it's intriguing to see how your style changes over the years. I shall certainly be taking a tip or two on board.

    Marijke

    www.viva-coco.blogspot.co.uk

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  5. I'm going to start on that visual diary of all my outfits, I think it would help me to mix and match and see what works and what doesn't

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  6. Excellent post. I usually just throw on whatever is clean/near to me at the time, but I really need to start thinking about what i'll wear more as otherwise I'm going to remain hugely unstylish for years to come.

    Sarah xo | PolkaDotLemon

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  7. You look so great!
    XO
    Jeanne
    http://fashionmusingsdiary.blogspot.fr

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  8. I think you should definitely have some sort of 'talent' to come up with (new) combinations and stuff. And you definitely have that talent! x

    WOMANOUK (beauty and portrait drawings)

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  9. these looks are so great


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  10. Thanks for the tips ! I'm agree with you, and i try to do my best for my personal style ! I think you are a big inspiration for style, you have something personal that i love and it's cool because it's no the case for all the bloggers. Thanks to be an inspiration for me :*

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  11. Omg, these silver shoes... love! I agree with all of your tips. I think the best way to develop your personal style is to first research what is on trend now, what suits you and then add your personal twist to it and make it your own! :)
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  12. I could not agree more with the 'you have nothing to wear' part you mentioned! Whenever I get a spare hour I'll randomly try on loads of different outfits to see what does and doesn't work, this way I always have an outfit to fall back on!x

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  13. fab!
    xx
    daniella
    simplybeautifulelegant.blogspot.com

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  14. This is such a helpful post, I've been loving Summer bits in store but don't have a clue what to go for!

    Jesslyn x
    FashionSquash

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  15. Great post! The polyvore clipper is THE best for this!

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  16. Each of these looks are amazing ! Really love your style !

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  17. Great post hun! Did you study fashion at uni? xxx

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  18. Thanks for these useful advice :)

    thelittlefashionette.blogspot.fr

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  19. awesome post! it is so important to just wear what you want and not just what is in style. xoxo Vanessa

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  20. Love this post :) I find my style varies dependent on weather, place and how I feel in myself- it can be edgy one day and very girly another :) xx

    www.lifeinthefashionlanee.blogspot.co.uk

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  21. Great post, I've never really felt like I have my own clothing style but this has inspired me to do the steps and work out what I like :) Time to go on some clothes websites! xx

    EmmiHearts

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  22. Fantastic post! It was nice to see how your style has changed in recent years!
    I love Pinterest - having all my inspiration in one place makes it so much easier to see how you can work with pieces you already have.

    Rachael at rachaelisnotwowzie.blogspot.co.uk

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  23. I love this blog post! So inspiring and now I really want to just go try loads of new items on to see what I like!

    www.uncoloured-collective.blogspot.co.uk

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  24. I'm glad you posted this! I get such bad anxiety when I'm getting dressed in the morning and when I'm shopping. It can all be so overwhelming! I'm going to try to follow these tips and see if it helps. Thanks!
    emiliashea.blogspot.com

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  25. I loved reading this post & totally agree! Your style has always been amazing :)

    Love Emma xx

    www.collagemepretty.blogspot.co.uk

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  26. Loved this post. SO helpful to hear at a time when I'm struggling to define my style.
    Aimee Xx
    dress-it-up-6.blogspot.co.uk

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  27. This is the most helpful post on this topic that I think I've ever read. I'd like to think I mostly know my style and what I like but I often go through fazes where I'm not as confident or as sure and need to re-think things, so these tips are perfect!

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  28. This was a great post Lily(like always).
    Absolutely love your outfits.
    -Ru.
    LOVESICKLILAC

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  29. Great post, I have to admit Ii always found taking loads of things into the changing rooms and not keeping any a bit daunting but this reassured me. It's what they are there for haha! xo
    EmsAlice // Fashion, Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

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  30. Wow what a blast from the past! I love looking back at your old outfit posts, not only because thet look great but because it reminds me of the things I was wearing then. I've followed your blog for years, it was the first one I really discovered. I remember saving photos of your outfits as inspiration for my own style. Keep up the good work!

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  31. Wow what a blast from the past! I love looking back at your old outfit posts, not only because thet look great but because it reminds me of the things I was wearing then. I've followed your blog for years, it was the first one I really discovered. I remember saving photos of your outfits as inspiration for my own style. Keep up the good work!

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  32. Wow what a blast from the past! I love looking back at your old outfit posts, not only because thet look great but because it reminds me of the things I was wearing then. I've followed your blog for years, it was the first one I really discovered. I remember saving photos of your outfits as inspiration for my own style. Keep up the good work!

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  33. Loved this post and all of these points are so relevant and so true! Thankyou for some fab advice :)
    I always find myself either note-taking or saving pictures of outfits and pieces i love and it's definitely a great way to create ideas! x

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  34. Lovely post! There are some great tips here, thank you so much for sharing :)!

    The Sunday Chapter x

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  36. loooooove the shoes

    xx

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  37. I think I will have to start taking in piles of clothes to change rooms from now on ;) And I will always put the clothes back on the hangers properly; it's the perfectionist coming out in me!! // timidlioness

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  38. All of these tips are great, but I especially love the last one! Great post!

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  39. Great post! The last tips was a really good one

    xx
    http://missn.spotlife.se

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  40. This is a great post !
    I liked the part about trying the clothes on, I always have to ask a friend or my mom to take few clothes for me because they only allow to try on 6-7 clothes at the time and sometimes I can't help, I have to try everything and often receive a bad look like "you can't try all this stuff and then buy just one fuckin thing !"

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  42. really great post to read Lily, i like seeing how your love of monochrome and soft prints has stayed consistent over the years of blogging. I think style is something everyone has it's just the confidence to use it. You may like jumpers and jeans but yu can switch it up with shapes and cuts to make it look a lot more fresh
    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Fashion Lifestyle + Photography - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  43. Great post, I love your personal style it is so effortless.

    http://champagnelifestyleteabudget.blogspot.co.uk/

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  44. Great tips!! Love your outfits!!

    www.fashiondiariesbyk.com

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  45. I wouldn't say I had style, but everything is personal your right! Whats stylish to me isnt stylish to everyone else, but wouldn't life be boring if everyone wore the same thing?
    http://sophielfarrell.blogspot.co.uk/
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  46. I completely agree with what you've said! I always try to go for what I'm instantly drawn to rather than what's popular on the runway or in magazines!
    -Alicia,
    aliciaswardrobe.blogspot.co.uk

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  47. I agree that fashion is more about what you like than what the media says is fashionable...dressing is an art not a science:)
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  48. Great post !
    Definitely be taking some tips !
    Thank you !
    Michelle xx
    http://michelleritchie.blogspot.co.uk/

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  49. Nice tips there .. Thanks and keep it up!

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  50. Love it! I'm always worried about trying things on, but when I think about it I have no idea why I am ! haha,
    www.budgetbeexo.wordpress.com

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  51. This is such a brilliant post! Great for start up bloggers like myself. I totally agree that fashion is about personal style rather than following the trends... who wants to be a sheep! Your style is great and the blog is brilliant, very inspiring.

    Em x

    http://whatemmawearsdaily.blogspot.com/

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  52. Ironically, I have just pinned one of your outfits to my Pinterest! I sometimes feel like my style is a bit all over the place. I think it would help if I came up with a way of describing it that would help me pull it together more when I'm shopping so I don't have a wardrobe full of stuff that doesn't match. x

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  53. Great post Lily, it's a really great idea with some great tips! I LOVE your style :) x

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  54. Love this! people take ages to find their "style" and try so hard, but really its about being comfortable in your own skin!!

    www.amygatenby.blogspot.co.uk

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  55. Dear, randomly found your blog and I’d like to say that you have amazing design, beautiful photos and interesting posts! I’m also impressed by your style! Everything is magnificent!

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  56. Its gorgeous!

    Tamar shalem - shoe designer
    WWW.TAMARSHALEM.COM

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  57. this was such an interesting post to read:) i don't exactly know what i'd describe my style as!

    love Katy @ THE RAWRDROBE

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  58. Love the post

    britishfashionnotebook.wordpress.com

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  59. Really loved this post Lily! Great tips, but also really lovely to hear a bit of reassurance that everyone has a different approach to what they wear, and that that's perfect! x

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  60. What great tips!! =)

    Kelli
    www.blog.bodeoo.com

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  61. Thank you for this post!! very well written!!

    Rachel x
    thehappybits.blogspot.com

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  62. Thank you for this post!! very well written!!

    Rachel x
    thehappybits.blogspot.com

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